I've seen hugely varied ways of describing what happened. From some media outlets heavily implying that Adam was abusing Sauli, to people saying, as you saw, that it was a drunken disorderly as you saw.

The people that were involved have tried to downplay it, there aren't any changes being laid and no one seems to have any hard feelings about it. And honestly, both Adam and Sauli were arrested, so I honestly don't think Adam is out there beating him or anything.

But by Adam's own admission, this was brought on by "irrational confusion" and alcohol. He lost control, got in a fight and people did get hurt. And I can't help but think that Adam used "irrational confusion" as a euphemism for "irrational jealousy" (although, I admit, that's probably a leap) and if it that's the case....

But regardless of what actually happened, if Adam's actions are triggering reactions from people, I think it should be perfectly valid for people to discuss those reactions. There's too much of a history of silence around domestic abuse, around abuse in general. And being told to stop talking about, even without accusations flying, just contributes to that history of silence.

I don't know, maybe I'm just being too sensitive because this whole thing is triggery for me but since it is triggery, I feel like I should be able to talk about it.