Bottom line is, not matter what happened, you are totally entitled to talk about it - even more so because of the trigger issues! You are right that silencing by shaming is not a good thing at all. Fair enough if more evidence comes to light and all can say 'whew, ok, it was nothing but media feeding frenzy'. That's quite another matter. The language you mention here is problematic - and that's all right to talk about in and of itself, regardless of the facts.