*looks at vague cranky post and offers virtual hugs*
You do realise you are allowed to say 'no' sometimes? That it isn't selfish to take care of yourself? That, if you fell over tomorrow, someone else could step in (okay, they'd need training if it's at work, and they wouldn't be you)? So what do you gain by knocking yourself over?
Maybe because I'm a pragmatist, which is probably because I'm the only girl amongst 4 brothers, and what with being one of the three of us who is disabled - but I learned at a very early age that if I don't look out for myself first, I won't be able to be there for others. So many women have been taught to look at this the other way around. Which benefits others, but not us.
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You do realise you are allowed to say 'no' sometimes? That it isn't selfish to take care of yourself? That, if you fell over tomorrow, someone else could step in (okay, they'd need training if it's at work, and they wouldn't be you)? So what do you gain by knocking yourself over?
Maybe because I'm a pragmatist, which is probably because I'm the only girl amongst 4 brothers, and what with being one of the three of us who is disabled - but I learned at a very early age that if I don't look out for myself first, I won't be able to be there for others. So many women have been taught to look at this the other way around. Which benefits others, but not us.
And now I'm going to fall off my soapbox... *g*