As I've gotten older and my life experience influences my world view, I've started to accept more things in what I read. Ha, I'm far more adventurous in my reading life than I am in RL. Especially in QaF where there wasn't a ton of fanfic, I'd read anything. Even now, I like reading kinky stuff, so will often try reading it if it appears on one of my kink comms if it's a pairing I like, with very few exceptions.
I have a very ingrained sense of OTP-ness that didn't used to allow for additions of any kind. Once I'd actually experienced a threesome for myself, I gained more understanding of how they work, at least with a casual third, so I began to read those types of stories because they ceased being threatening to my OTPness. Hmm, that's an interesting take on threesomes, and was actually the opposite of what I was like coming in. I hadn't any problem originally with X/Y+Z fics, it was the X/Y/Z ones that confused me. I didn't see how three people could be in love equally. Now though, I think I understand, and I can never go back to reading the X/Y+Z type fics, they just don't appeal to me. I think it's because, in my fics I'm looking for an emotional connection, and threesome sex scenes are often used more as an additional kink, that often is just about porn than anything else. I won't stop reading a fic because it has a threesome in it, but if it's just a PWP I'll skip it.
One of the things that I like about reading as opposed to watching is that I can run the events through my own personal filter. While I certainly enjoy watching porn when I'm in the mood for it, reading it is more enjoyable to me because it's "cleaner." Very true. It's a lot easier and less likely to throw you out of the mood if you just skip a few lines, as opposed to having to hit the fast forward button. Also, one thing I notice about fic, is you can read a sex scene that goes on for pages and pages and you enjoy it (if it's written well of course), but when watching porn, I get bored if the scene changes to happen often enough. I mean, 10 minutes of a genitals close up as they pound into each other gets a little boring for me.
It's the same with other aspects of fic, in my case non-con or extreme "whump." Yeah, non-con was the one thing on my list of "things I enjoy reading in fandom, that I can't like in RL" although, tacky_tramp reminded me of chan, which I've read once or twice.
As for whump and H/C... well, that's a kink that's a bit hard to tranfer to RL. I mean, if you were in an accident, or something happened like an earthquake, when you first saw your SO, would you not enjoy seeing them? Would you not want to jump them as soon as you could to make sure they are ok? I mean, it's not a situation you'd seek out, but I think the after effects are still applicable to RL, you just wouldn't seek it out. Even if in the future you don't look back on that horrible time as a happy though, I'm sure you'd remember the rush of emotions that went with the relief of finding out that you guys were ok. And I'm really not sure how someone could be a H/C junkie in RL, unless it's through BDSM or something. I suppose you could look for pick ups at the local sexual assault centre... which ok, yeah, that would be wrong.
Then there's the stuff I like in fic that can't really happen in real life Would *you* approve of mpreg and ass babies in RL? :P
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Ha, I'm far more adventurous in my reading life than I am in RL. Especially in QaF where there wasn't a ton of fanfic, I'd read anything. Even now, I like reading kinky stuff, so will often try reading it if it appears on one of my kink comms if it's a pairing I like, with very few exceptions.
I have a very ingrained sense of OTP-ness that didn't used to allow for additions of any kind. Once I'd actually experienced a threesome for myself, I gained more understanding of how they work, at least with a casual third, so I began to read those types of stories because they ceased being threatening to my OTPness.
Hmm, that's an interesting take on threesomes, and was actually the opposite of what I was like coming in. I hadn't any problem originally with X/Y+Z fics, it was the X/Y/Z ones that confused me. I didn't see how three people could be in love equally. Now though, I think I understand, and I can never go back to reading the X/Y+Z type fics, they just don't appeal to me. I think it's because, in my fics I'm looking for an emotional connection, and threesome sex scenes are often used more as an additional kink, that often is just about porn than anything else. I won't stop reading a fic because it has a threesome in it, but if it's just a PWP I'll skip it.
One of the things that I like about reading as opposed to watching is that I can run the events through my own personal filter. While I certainly enjoy watching porn when I'm in the mood for it, reading it is more enjoyable to me because it's "cleaner."
Very true. It's a lot easier and less likely to throw you out of the mood if you just skip a few lines, as opposed to having to hit the fast forward button. Also, one thing I notice about fic, is you can read a sex scene that goes on for pages and pages and you enjoy it (if it's written well of course), but when watching porn, I get bored if the scene changes to happen often enough. I mean, 10 minutes of a genitals close up as they pound into each other gets a little boring for me.
It's the same with other aspects of fic, in my case non-con or extreme "whump."
Yeah, non-con was the one thing on my list of "things I enjoy reading in fandom, that I can't like in RL" although,
As for whump and H/C... well, that's a kink that's a bit hard to tranfer to RL. I mean, if you were in an accident, or something happened like an earthquake, when you first saw your SO, would you not enjoy seeing them? Would you not want to jump them as soon as you could to make sure they are ok? I mean, it's not a situation you'd seek out, but I think the after effects are still applicable to RL, you just wouldn't seek it out. Even if in the future you don't look back on that horrible time as a happy though, I'm sure you'd remember the rush of emotions that went with the relief of finding out that you guys were ok.
And I'm really not sure how someone could be a H/C junkie in RL, unless it's through BDSM or something. I suppose you could look for pick ups at the local sexual assault centre... which ok, yeah, that would be wrong.
Then there's the stuff I like in fic that can't really happen in real life
Would *you* approve of mpreg and ass babies in RL? :P