Hmm, I wonder if maybe I give fandom more credit than I should. As a young teenager, I never really questioned my morals, they were the same as my families. Then I went to university, and discovered fandom and philosophy and suddenly I was questioning everything, and reexamining a lot of things I had taken for granted before.
Although, I still find my way of thinking changing due to fandom. I mean, it's an international community of mostly liberal minded women, I'm constantly being shown different perspectives on things (in general) and being forced to rethink some of the assumptions I had previously held.
Especially in the Stargate Atlantis fandom. I mean, in QaF, if there was going to be wank, it was about the Brian/Michael shippers were delusional, or those spoiler hos/virgins, ruinin' all the fun! SGA, on the other hand, feels their wank should be on deep moral issues. Just the other day I was saying to paradise_city "Oh, I miss the fandoms when the wank wasn't about anything that matters. When it didn't make you want to re-examine your life for things that might not even apply." :P
never had many real squicks to begin with. Those I do have - scat, bestiality, non-con, mostly - have not changed. Oh scat, misunderstood by so many. Actually, I'm a pretty kinky reader, but scat is one of those kinks I just was never able to come to like. I can handle rimming (although, it grossed me out for the first little while) and to some extent even water sports, but scat is just too far for me.
However, there is such a huge problem with (full and informed) consent in real life incest, since family relationships (especially if they're cross-gen) have such inherent power dynamics, that I wouldn't approve of them under many circumstances. Yeah, mostly when I think of incest, I think of the same generation. Also, even if they were both adults and consenting, I'd probably have a lot more problems with it if it were a parent child thing instead of siblings or cousins. For all that I read Snape/Harry in HP, that there was a decent gap between Brian and Justin, and that I'm more attracted to older people, than those my own, I'm still squicked by huge age differences. I mean, I have a friend right now, who's a few months younger than I am (22), who's dating a man almost 60. It's just, even if they have a lot in common, there are so many other issues. Like, he has children from a previous marriage, he probably doesn't have more than 20-30 years left to live, and there's no guaranteer that those years will be healthy coherent ones.
So yes, rambly rambly no conclusion from me either :P
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Although, I still find my way of thinking changing due to fandom. I mean, it's an international community of mostly liberal minded women, I'm constantly being shown different perspectives on things (in general) and being forced to rethink some of the assumptions I had previously held.
Especially in the Stargate Atlantis fandom. I mean, in QaF, if there was going to be wank, it was about the Brian/Michael shippers were delusional, or those spoiler hos/virgins, ruinin' all the fun! SGA, on the other hand, feels their wank should be on deep moral issues. Just the other day I was saying to
never had many real squicks to begin with. Those I do have - scat, bestiality, non-con, mostly - have not changed.
Oh scat, misunderstood by so many. Actually, I'm a pretty kinky reader, but scat is one of those kinks I just was never able to come to like. I can handle rimming (although, it grossed me out for the first little while) and to some extent even water sports, but scat is just too far for me.
However, there is such a huge problem with (full and informed) consent in real life incest, since family relationships (especially if they're cross-gen) have such inherent power dynamics, that I wouldn't approve of them under many circumstances.
Yeah, mostly when I think of incest, I think of the same generation. Also, even if they were both adults and consenting, I'd probably have a lot more problems with it if it were a parent child thing instead of siblings or cousins.
For all that I read Snape/Harry in HP, that there was a decent gap between Brian and Justin, and that I'm more attracted to older people, than those my own, I'm still squicked by huge age differences. I mean, I have a friend right now, who's a few months younger than I am (22), who's dating a man almost 60. It's just, even if they have a lot in common, there are so many other issues. Like, he has children from a previous marriage, he probably doesn't have more than 20-30 years left to live, and there's no guaranteer that those years will be healthy coherent ones.
So yes, rambly rambly no conclusion from me either :P