OMG I am soo angry right now

[paraka]

I know I've made little whiny mentions that I want to move out of my parents house, but I think I've finally hit the end of my rope. I am so angry right now I'm crying.

God.

So I just had a fight with my family.
As I've mentioned before, I have a cat. I almost didn't move back home because of the cat, but in the end, my parents said to bring her. And, everyone fell in love with Tigger. My dad and sister adore her, and my mom, who hates cats, has been caught snuggling her. Despite all this, I'm the one who has to do all the work to take care of her. If she throws up or something (she's getting old, so it happens), they'll leave if for me to clean up, even if I'm not there when it happens and everyone else in the house is. My mom, who I think is delusional, is always harassing me to clean her littler box, because she thinks it stinks, even if I just cleaned it the other day. About the only thing I don't do is feed her, but that's just because other people seem to do it before me. I used to it all the time, but, well, Tigger loves food, and it's the fastest way to her heart.

The thing is, she's kind of loud. Especially in the morning. The thing is, normally you just leave her to it, or snag her into bed and snuggle her, and she's quiet in no time, but the rest of my family isn't patient. They got into the habit of feeding her whenever she meows in the morning, and now, it's one of the only ways to shut her up. I am not a morning person, so days I get up and let her out of my room while still asleep, other times I sleep right through it. Often it's my little sister who gets annoyed enough to go do something. But she bitches about it endlessly. God, I hate her whining more than Trigger's. She'll come into my room and sit on my bed and snuggle with my cat, which can be quite distracting, and then complain to me about how annoying she is.

Well apparently she's taken it up one level, and now my parents are blaming me for it. There is nothing I can do in the morning to stop Tigger, not really. But they're saying if I don't get her to stop they're going to have her put down.

Over my dead body.

So yes, I think it's time I moved.

Comments

[paraka]

So when the dog is up early whining, it just wants to be put outside? Can I ask why you don't just get up and let it out? Then it'll be quiet and you'll be able to go back to sleep. That's what the issue is here, if they just put some food out, she'll mostly be quiet after and everyone can go back to sleep, problem solved.

[paradise-city.livejournal.com]

Icon love!

When the dog whines, he wants to be let out to do his business. If you don't let him out, he makes a mess in the bathroom and the first person who needs to take a shower (usually me, as my brother's not a morning person) has to clean it up if he's not let out in time.

My issue with letting him out is that it's not my responsibility. I think if you (general you) want to keep a pet in a house with other people, it's your responsibility to make the sure the pet doesn't inconvenience anyone. Why should it be someone else's responsibility to look after your pet? If you don't care enough about your pet to care for it properly (and I think making sure other people aren't inconvenienced is proper care), then why should anyone else, especially when it's not their pet?

It's not a huge issue, I get that, but it really adds up after a while. Usually I end up putting the dog out, but it pisses me off every single time. I'm awake and cold and shivering while my brother's sleeping soundly. It's just not fair. And actually, it's resulted in me really disliking this dog. None of our others dogs have been as difficult and I've loved them to bits. But if this dog got lost tomorrow and never came back, I'd feel bad for my brother but thrilled for me. And I'm usually not that cold about pets.

(I'm a bit bitter about this, in case you couldn't tell. Sorry if that spilled over onto your situation.)

[paraka]

Hmm, I can't speak for what it's like at your house, but what annoys me the most about how my family acts is that while, yes, I did bring the cat here, and if I leave, I hope to take her with me, mostly she's a family cat. Everyone spends a lot of time loving her and playing with her. I do the brunt of the taking care of her, but still, family cat. So I guess it pisses me off that when everything fine she's a family can, but when she's bad, she's my cat and my responsibility. Yeah it sucks that she woke them up, but I can't help that, short of getting rid of her, or sound proofing individual rooms. I can't help the fact that I could sleep through a nuclear holocaust either (seriously, I have multiple alarms because I don't wake easily). Since she's their cat most of the time, couldn't she be their cat for this little bit of time too? Hell, I'll even get the food ready the night before, so all that's needed is for someone to physically take the food from the fridge and to put it on the floor. If it weren't for the fact that it's wet food, I would totally put it out the night before.

As for your brothers dog, I guess there's no way to get a doggie door?
One of the things my mom threatened me with (although I personally don't see how it accomplishes much other than making two people miserable) is that instead of waking up and feeding the cat, my sister would wake *me* up to feed the cat, in the hopes of, I don't know, training me. It might be a way of showing your brother how frustrated you are, and making him be more careful. *shrugs*

Icon love!
Thanks. The icon is by butterflyicons.